Typically, I alternate between a birthday party and birthday dinner each year. After my son passed in 2016, I had a difficult time celebrating my birthday. I pushed myself to celebrate year 36 and found myself in tears driving to the event venue.
Although I know I deserved to celebrate and I was grateful for life, it just didn’t feel right. With COVID and all the craziness going on in the world I decided to celebrate my birthday in solitude. I asked my dear friend and event planner to put together a surprise birthday getaway!
Needless to say I am relaxed, rejuvenated, and ready to walk into 38 with audacity and authority.
Here are 38 Life Lessons I reflected on during my solo birthday celebration.
Forgiveness should be abundant and given freely.
Judge less because not everyone has the struggle I have.
I’m difficult to get to know. I’m going to change that.
I am learning how setting boundaries benefits me.
My voice is relevant.
I’m a great writer.
It’s not always about a big house and fancy car.
My purpose is tied to being a conduit for healing. I need to embrace this gift more.
And I don’t have the right to force anyone to heal.
There are levels to knowing God. Embrace the “uncertainty” before the reveal.
I have way too much masculine energy. I am learning to tap into my femininity.
Trust my intuition. She be on point!
I am who I am. And as I evolve I take some of the “I am” with me.
Time is a fear-based construct. When I eliminate time I soar.
Just because I can doesn’t mean I have to.
I am a generational curse breaker.
Nobody owes me anything. I owe myself everything.
Allow people to do for you. You’re not the only person whose primary love language is Acts of Service.
I could definitely be a better friend.
I could definitely be a better family member.
People really do love me. Like, all parts of me.
I desire to be led by personal conviction.
I find myself everyntime I lose myself.
I need to become more present.
I really do love me. Like, all parts of me.
I can allow myself to be a hot mess.
I can allow myself to be controversial.
Now more than ever I want to help heal black people.
I’m pretty freaking funny. In another life I was a comedienne.
Alot of my happiness is expressed through the arts. I miss my artistic parts.
Legacy building is taking precedence in my life.
I need to speak up more. Everything can’t stay inside my head.
My skin color makes me a target.
Charge your worth.
“That ain’t none ofy business” is becoming my favorite phrase.
Keeping “busy” is a trauma response. I’ll be chillin’ a little more.
No more giving life to dead things.
Playing small has never benefitted me, so Ima do it big.
I have love. I am love. I give love.
I lack nothing. I lack nothing. I lack nothing.