We are in the era of self-care! So, unless you’ve been living under a boulder, I am sure you’ve heard someone talk about their self-care rituals or encourage you to get on the bandwagon. Establishing self-care activities is more than dropping a bath bomb into an over-sized tub! It starts with a total mind shift. Are you struggling to reap the benefits of your self-care rituals? You’re not sure how to start?  Here are 3 mantras you should incorporate to maximize your self-care experience.

Self-care IS Self-love

So, here’s the thing…Self-care is a loving act towards self…PERIODT! Whatever you choose to do be sure to do it in a loving way towards yourself. Your self-care rituals should be free from judgment, guilt, shame, and make you feel light and free. Ask yourself, “Am I loving me?” when you engage in a ritual. If there’s a tinge of “No” or uncertainty then it’s likely your ritual is being driven by something else and therefore isn’t self-care or self-love.

 Be Intentional

I am an extremely busy person, and I get it! Sometimes, we just “don’t have time.” But I also think we’ve brainwashed ourselves into believing we don’t have time for things that are beneficial to us. You have time…you just don’t MAKE time! We have to adopt an intentional mindset when it comes to incorporating and following through with our self-care rituals. That means setting specifics times, planning it out, not skipping out on your routine, and most importantly making self-care a priority.

Say “Yes” to Me

Ever told yourself you couldn’t do something for yourself because you imagined other things or people would suffer? You know… If I say “yes” to me then the kids will starve……my friends won’t forgive me…I’ll lose my job. Often times we fear taking care of ours, being kind to ourselves, and giving ourselves a break because we think the world will end when we do. NEWS FLASH LADIES- Saying yes to yourself is not only an intentional declaration of self-love, it also puts you in a position to be more giving to others. As the old saying goes, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Get into the habit of telling yourself, “YES” and self-care will automatically follow. Give yourself permission to love on and care for self.

Sincerely,

Dr. Tiffanie